{"items": [{"author": "Christopher", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/974776368222?comment_id=974784921082", "anchor": "fb-974784921082", "service": "fb", "text": "This all seems fine but its not fully complete. Protecting the accused from false or distorted accusations has to be a part of the process or goals somewhere. Right now your post seems to assume guilt, which I don't think is your intent.", "timestamp": "1546233089"}, {"author": "Jeff Kaufman", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/974776368222?comment_id=974784921082&reply_comment_id=974786063792", "anchor": "fb-974784921082_974786063792", "service": "fb", "text": "→ That is a part of it as well. I know of cases where reports like this were used as tools by an abuser, and a policy of \"whoever comes to us first will be believed\" or \"... has a lower burden of proof\" would facilitate such abuse.
Splitting dances is relatively safe from being misused in this way because both people end up equally limited. So I think you should generally have a lower threshold there. On the other hand, for banning someone I think you need a higher one.", "timestamp": "1546233801"}, {"author": "Danni", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/974776368222?comment_id=974787810292", "anchor": "fb-974787810292", "service": "fb", "text": "Just a warning that one way I've seen the splitting strategy backfire is when an abuser is using this as a way to cut the survivor off from their community. An example I once observed: an abuser started attending a twice-weekly support group that the survivor was already attending. When the survivor was exiting the relationship, the support group facilitators' solution was to split the meetings in this way, so one of them would attend one day and the other would attend the other day. The abuser, who hadn't even been attending the support group for very long and did not have close relationships in the group, claimed the day when more of the survivor's close connections typically attended, effectively cutting the survivor off from those supports. I'm not sure what a better solution is, necessarily, but just keep in mind that when you talk about \"someone feels strongly enough about avoiding someone that they're willing to give up half the dance time/space to do so\"...the alternative is not \"they give up none of their dance time\", it's \"they give up ALL of their dance time\", and that half the time that they end up losing may be time they actually really need to maintain the sense of supportive community that they need to get out of the abusive situation.", "timestamp": "1546236460"}, {"author": "Jeff Kaufman", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/974776368222?comment_id=975453241762", "anchor": "fb-975453241762", "service": "fb", "text": "Follow-up post: https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/975452877492", "timestamp": "1546636145"}]}