{"items": [{"author": "Jeff Kaufman", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100119606773902?comment_id=10100119607113222", "anchor": "fb-10100119607113222", "service": "fb", "text": "Thanks especially to @Derek and Claire for watching Lily while I played, and to Audrey, Amy, and Cecilia for both helping out and being up for having a small child around. Lily tells me she misses you all and wants to see you soon.", "timestamp": "1572791201"}, {"author": "Amy", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100119606773902?comment_id=10100119607113222&reply_comment_id=10100119616609192", "anchor": "fb-10100119607113222_10100119616609192", "service": "fb", "text": "→ Hope to see Lily soon!! Tell her we miss her too :)", "timestamp": "1572796864"}, {"author": "Jeff Kaufman", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100119606773902?comment_id=10100119607961522", "anchor": "fb-10100119607961522", "service": "fb", "text": "When Lily was 2y4m I was in SF with Lily for EA Global 2016, and I subbed for Christopher with Ruthie and John-Michael at the Wednesday night Berkeley dance. Lily was still too little to keep out of the lines, so after each dance ended I would ask around to see who would be willing to watch her, not this dance but the next one. (Which felt a lot like booking ahead [1]). This was a lot less stressful after the break, when Ajeya and Rohin volunteered to follow her around and play with her the whole second half.
This was fun to do once but I wouldn't want to do it again.
[1] https://www.jefftk.com/p/booking-ahead-at-contras", "timestamp": "1572791700"}, {"author": "Bill", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100119606773902?comment_id=10100119607961522&reply_comment_id=10100119637153022", "anchor": "fb-10100119607961522_10100119637153022", "service": "fb", "text": "→ On booking ahead, I read it with great interest and it is still relevant. Thanks!", "timestamp": "1572804217"}, {"author": "Bill", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100119606773902?comment_id=10100119618056292", "anchor": "fb-10100119618056292", "service": "fb", "text": "https://stuartstotts.com/songl.../music-in-my-mothers-house/", "timestamp": "1572797611"}, {"author": "Martha", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100119606773902?comment_id=10100119717976052", "anchor": "fb-10100119717976052", "service": "fb", "text": "Fwiw (I don't go to many dances, and only one weekend-long thing), I'm always more than happy to hang out with your kids. They are delightful.", "timestamp": "1572840187"}, {"author": "Gianna", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100119606773902?comment_id=10100119757481882", "anchor": "fb-10100119757481882", "service": "fb", "text": "Really helpful to read about what's worked for you. I don't play gigs as much, but go to lots of fiddle events. In both cases, I've found the best approach so far is to try to arrange some childcare that's not at the event or at home, so K doesn't have to deal with both kids alone while I have fun. Not that he couldn't, and sometimes he has, but it's hard at this particular stage with our particular kids and I feel like it's unfair.
F is old enough now that I can bring her to some things and still get to play a decent amount so I have done that more as she's gotten older, and find it works best if she gets to watch things on the ipad (a rare occurrence) and if I make sure to plan some time just for her and I at the beginning and end of the event. I invite her to participate as appropriate but don't try to force it - I'd like her memories of musical events to be positive.
When we went to Greenfield a few weeks ago this structure worked really well and we both had a great time, and K had a great time at home with T.
Sometimes we all go, but I tend to be more laid back about what the kids are doing and K ends up feeling stressed, which isn't sustainable. It's a work in progress. I rely a lot on grandparents.
I love seeing other parents of young kids making this work because I definitely notice the drop off in musical participation in the \"young families\" category.", "timestamp": "1572879915"}]}