{"items": [{"author": "Bil", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100119454109842?comment_id=10100119455596862", "anchor": "fb-10100119455596862", "service": "fb", "text": "Yeah... I dated a woman for a few months &amp; her ex was upset. He wrote a bunch of vague accusations of me being evil. She said \"Ignore him.\" Two years later I was lobbying Congress for the Peace Corps. I was going to stay with another RPCV. The day before I arrived, she saw the message and told me \"no.\" You better be 1000000% certain of accusations.", "timestamp": "1572697232"}, {"author": "Jeff&nbsp;Kaufman", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100119454109842?comment_id=10100119455596862&reply_comment_id=10100119455901252", "anchor": "fb-10100119455596862_10100119455901252", "service": "fb", "text": "&rarr;&nbsp;Bil I'm talking about first person accounts", "timestamp": "1572697389"}, {"author": "Meg", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100119454109842?comment_id=10100119462817392", "anchor": "fb-10100119462817392", "service": "fb", "text": "BARCC put together a resource for survivors looking to share their stories that touches on some of this (including when to consider legal advice). I agree that the decision to share a personal account of abuse is probably not taken lightly, and we should never discourage that. That said, we can be good allies by supporting friends and making sure they feel safe and are comfortable with the level of risk associated with the specifics they are sharing.<br><br>https://barcc.org/information/resources/story", "timestamp": "1572703120"}, {"author": "Todd", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100119454109842?comment_id=10100119480716522", "anchor": "fb-10100119480716522", "service": "fb", "text": "As someone much more on the \"needs to have their eyes opened\" end of the spectrum, my rough, optimistic picture of what's happening is that as more people speak up publicly and are corroborated, more and more people like myself default to believing these stories - including, crucially, reports that are made in private, rather than in public. So over time, speaking up publicly makes it more likely that others don't need to.<br><br>I think what might help with this is for people in positions of power &amp; authority to have a way to convincingly signal that they will, and already have, taken private reports seriously. My impression is there's often a gap between official policies and what people actually experience (and expect to experience) when they make a private report. This degrades the signal for people/organizations who actually do the right thing in response to such reports. But I'm not sure how this could be convincingly communicated while maintaining the reporter's privacy.", "timestamp": "1572712299"}, {"author": "Josh", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100119454109842?comment_id=10100119571744102", "anchor": "fb-10100119571744102", "service": "fb", "text": "I'm still getting over being astounded about stories like this, because I am a sheltered privileged cis straight white guy. :^(<br><br>I'm listening to MEN (http://www.sceneonradio.org/men/), a series about male domination from the people who brought us Seeing White (http://www.sceneonradio.org/seeing-white/), and it's good, but so far not as consistently mind-blowing as Seeing White; but the most recent episode I listened to (http://www.sceneonradio.org/episode-53-himpathy-men-part-7/) was about this topic, and was really good (and tough to listen to).", "timestamp": "1572753196"}, {"author": "moderock", "source_link": "https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/ZHsFC8kjGvbYKaJiD#Hei8Ncp9FBzwBDBd5", "anchor": "lw-Hei8Ncp9FBzwBDBd5", "service": "lw", "text": "As being publicly accused of rape or sexual assault carries severe penalties for the accused, how do you intend to deal with false accusations?", "timestamp": 1572999305}, {"author": "jkaufman", "source_link": "https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/ZHsFC8kjGvbYKaJiD#5LJNPF4MfKAoXGjhq", "anchor": "lw-5LJNPF4MfKAoXGjhq", "service": "lw", "text": "&rarr;&nbsp;When people speak up publicly and share their experience, everyone can make their own judgement about how to respond.  In the two cases I refer to in this post the community response was pretty obvious, and there was a lot of corroboration.  I can think of other cases of someone speaking up where it was less clear, and people reacted in a range of ways from \"I'm going to stop interacting with this person because they hurt someone\" to \"I'm going to keep an eye on this person and be extra alert for other potentially harmful behavior\" to \"I don't think this report is credible and I'm going to ignore it\".\n<br><br>While this isn't ideal in various ways, it does seem reasonably robust to false accusations.\n", "timestamp": 1573011807}]}