{"items": [{"author": "Rosemary", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113693833482", "anchor": "fb-10100113693833482", "service": "fb", "text": "MY new andriod phone comes with \"Digital Well-being\" which turns off all sounds during any period I set, currently 22:30 - 0:700, You have to call twice in 15 minutes to get my phone to ring. I tell people who might need to contact me in an emergency, Otherwise, I get the message in the morning. I do have to check if I have a message in the morning, as long as I have notifications turned on I will see it in my phone. It is a great improvement, and could still use some work.", "timestamp": "1569930689"}, {"author": "unknown", "source_link": "#", "anchor": "unknown", "service": "unknown", "text": "→ unknown", "timestamp": "-1"}, {"author": "Jeff Kaufman", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113693833482&reply_comment_id=10100113693963222", "anchor": "fb-10100113693833482_10100113693963222", "service": "fb", "text": "→ Rosemary I like things like this a lot, though currently you can't rely on other people to have their phones configured this way. Maybe over time this moves to being socially expected, at which point it becomes fine to call someone any time and only if it's a good time for them will they be notified?", "timestamp": "1569930976"}, {"author": "Rosemary", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113693833482&reply_comment_id=10100113694207732", "anchor": "fb-10100113693833482_10100113694207732", "service": "fb", "text": "→ I agree, and was looking at amplifying the message that this is possible. I'd like the phone to come default to quiet mode, say 11 pm to 7am local time. I taking the times of local noise ordinances as a starting point.", "timestamp": "1569931086"}, {"author": "Harris", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113693833482&reply_comment_id=10100113727281452", "anchor": "fb-10100113693833482_10100113727281452", "service": "fb", "text": "→ I believe iPhones' default \"do not disturb\" settings do a similar thing where a call will not be silenced if someone calls twice within three minutes. (There's a setting for this, at least. I can't recall if I explicitly enabled it or it was on by default.)", "timestamp": "1569951460"}, {"author": "Jim", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113693833482&reply_comment_id=10100114238881202", "anchor": "fb-10100113693833482_10100114238881202", "service": "fb", "text": "→ I\u2019ve also heard of people requesting that others use the call-twice method as a way of not answering calls from bots", "timestamp": "1570186319"}, {"author": "Todd", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113695270602", "anchor": "fb-10100113695270602", "service": "fb", "text": "I really only worry about this when it comes to phone calls as the sender. Anything else imo is the recipient's responsibility to set up Do Not Disturb. If it's an emergency, I should be calling anyway.", "timestamp": "1569932326"}, {"author": "Ross", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113695280582", "anchor": "fb-10100113695280582", "service": "fb", "text": "> [T]reat...as if it will wake people up unless you happen to know that this particular person has configured their app differently[:] SMS, Whatsapp, FB Messenger, Hangouts, Signal
This is very far from my understanding of \"the rules\". Before you suggested otherwise, I believed it was *obvious* that text-based communication media were in the \"receiver's device tracks do-not-disturb\" convention.
(I'm not sure if either of us is objectively right here; I'm mostly just giving feedback.)", "timestamp": "1569932370"}, {"author": "Denise", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113695280582&reply_comment_id=10100113695944252", "anchor": "fb-10100113695280582_10100113695944252", "service": "fb", "text": "→ Yeah I thought the same. It has never occurred to me not to send a text because it\u2019s late.", "timestamp": "1569932738"}, {"author": "Jeff Kaufman", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113695280582&reply_comment_id=10100113695959222", "anchor": "fb-10100113695280582_10100113695959222", "service": "fb", "text": "→ Ross it's possible I'm being too cautious!", "timestamp": "1569932764"}, {"author": "Howie", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113695280582&reply_comment_id=10100113696707722", "anchor": "fb-10100113695280582_10100113696707722", "service": "fb", "text": "→ I thought the same. I think I had norms more like Jeff's before I had a smart phone.", "timestamp": "1569932965"}, {"author": "Jim", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113695280582&reply_comment_id=10100114239375212", "anchor": "fb-10100113695280582_10100114239375212", "service": "fb", "text": "→ Could be a community or generational norm. My spouse has been chastised by a youth that they were mentoring for texting at a time when the youth was asleep. For people who are old enough that they grew up with more forms of asynchronous communication, there\u2019s a built-in understanding that not every message can or will be responded to immediately. For a lot of younger people though, I think there can be social pressure to treat every message as something that has to be addressed right away", "timestamp": "1570186774"}, {"author": "Martha", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113697840452", "anchor": "fb-10100113697840452", "service": "fb", "text": "After \"Rachel from Cardholder Services\" woke me from an afternoon nap when I was very pregnant, Kyle wrote a program that makes the computer answer the landline. During the day, the outgoing message says \"if you a re a human, press '42',\" which makes the phone ring so we can answer the call normally -- that caller's number is then whitelisted forevermore. If the caller is a computer, the phone doesn't ring but it can still leave a message, which arrives as an .mp3 in both our email boxes. At night the outgoing message is \"we're normally asleep at this hour, but if it's an emergency, press 1 and the phone will ring.\" And if we want to take a nap (this feature was extremely useful when R was still napping daily), we can call the computer and enter a code that puts the system in sleep mode for n minutes, where we define n on a case-by-case basis. Of course, this is only possible on the landline -- if only all this detail were possible on our cellphones! I've never understood why the automatic night mode on my cellphone can't be configured to shift later on weekends -- if the thermostat can do it, the phone should be able to!", "timestamp": "1569933847"}, {"author": "Andrew", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113723868292", "anchor": "fb-10100113723868292", "service": "fb", "text": "As someone living in England and missing friends back home, this impacts me deeply.", "timestamp": "1569949683"}, {"author": "Becca", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113723868292&reply_comment_id=10100113823837952", "anchor": "fb-10100113723868292_10100113823837952", "service": "fb", "text": "→ Andrew message me whenever, yo!", "timestamp": "1569983615"}, {"author": "Becca", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113723868292&reply_comment_id=10100113823882862", "anchor": "fb-10100113723868292_10100113823882862", "service": "fb", "text": "→ If I can\u2019t take the call, I\u2019m on silent", "timestamp": "1569983639"}, {"author": "Allison", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113809167352", "anchor": "fb-10100113809167352", "service": "fb", "text": "Android already has an option for double calls within 15min to go through, which has solved this for me.", "timestamp": "1569977626"}, {"author": "Sarah", "source_link": "https://www.facebook.com/jefftk/posts/10100113688194782?comment_id=10100113885110162", "anchor": "fb-10100113885110162", "service": "fb", "text": "Whoa, I do not think of FB messenger or Hangouts as default phone notification, or even default phone! I only have them on my computer and I'm always startled when I realize I'm talking to someone who is on their phone. Apps that work on both phone and computer without signaling the users how their interlocutor is talking to them have weird imbalanced affordances. This leads to awkwardness.", "timestamp": "1570031892"}, {"author": "philh", "source_link": "https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/pLEWQ6Jrbhf8BWXiF#udWgBJXJapzryboLT", "anchor": "lw-udWgBJXJapzryboLT", "service": "lw", "text": "I once polled my friends about texting when they might be asleep, and almost everyone said they had do not disturb or similar set up so it didn't bother them. So now I don't worry about it. Of course I don't know if everyone else's friends are similar to mine.\n", "timestamp": 1570112709}, {"author": "robertskmiles", "source_link": "https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/pLEWQ6Jrbhf8BWXiF#Ey357aEzvfNJpW974", "anchor": "lw-Ey357aEzvfNJpW974", "service": "lw", "text": "That suggestion (allowing certain contacts to have a message saying \"This person is asleep, but if you're sure, I can wake them up\") has that property of truly great ideas - that it had never occurred to me, but I'm now legitimately angry that it doesn't already exist.\n", "timestamp": 1570538576}]}